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I went ahead and perved your Swing Lifestyle profile too (very good profile by the way), and the only thing I can see is that what you are looking for is very specific and well laid out, but I will have to admit, I have met very few folks that meet all of your requirements. Keep in mind that the less flexible you are in what you are seeking, the more flexible those you seek would have to be. The reason for that is, while I have meet a lot of swingers, I have met very few that see swinging the same way, or have the exact same desires and expectations.

While it is good that you know exactly what you want, if their is no flexibility there, you need to be very patient in finding it. Based on my understanding, after reading your profile, it doesn't surprise me that you are having a bit of trouble finding exactly what you are looking for. We have been swinging actively for about six years, and I'll have to admit, we have only played with a few couples in that time that we would really want to play with again. Even fewer couples that we actually have played with more than once. Fortunately, that is fine with us. But in your case, I would expect that that is a lot of what you find frustrating. With four people that all have to click together, it isn't unusual for one of the four to decide that they don't want to go there again. I actually think that what you are seeking in regards to repeat play with others, is something that happens by accident more often than it is successfully sought out.

Other than that, without knowing you personally, I can't really give any insight into what the problem might be. I do suspect that you may be trying to hard though, which most folks can pick up on and will be put off by.