[lustylearning]

Whoa... You've clearly been disappointed by your lifestyle experiences thus far. Before saying anything, I checked your Swing Lifestyle profile. My first impression after reading it is, you're looking for something very specific. And unfortunately, what you're looking for never comes made to order - it develops over time, after achieving a certain comfort level, often times by accident. Intensity of expectations leads to difficult "dating" situations - and frankly, most folks in the lifestyle shun that level of intensity. I understand that you're not looking for exclusivity, but you are, essentially, looking for some kind of commitment, and the more expectations you have, the fewer folks there are that will be available and willing to meet them.

Since we, as a couple, do not require the same thing you seek, it's difficult to offer advice. But we have learned that flexibility allows for far more positive experiences.

We hope you find what you're looking for, but more importantly, we hope you both find joy in the journey, not just in the destination.