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Originally Posted by iapr  If you don't like the club scene what do you like? Whatever it is I betcha good money there are thousands of other people across the country and probalby hundreds within a few hours drive that enjoy the same thing.
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I was looking back through some of your older posts and ran across
this thread and the above advice caught my attention.
One thing I have found with most people who feel that the lifestyle isn't giving them what they want is that they are either expecting too much or trying too hard to make things work. From reading your posts it seems like everything you try in order to meet people who fit your criteria isn't working for you. This leads me to a question for you...
What is it EXACTLY that you are looking for within the lifestyle? What are you hoping to find/ accomplish? Your post confuses me in that regard because on one hand it seems like you want people you can have repeat fun with (I'm not sure if you are wanting friendship or just FBs with a couple) but then on the other hand you mention that you hate the idea of "courting" when you are just there for sex. You can't have it both ways. Either you just want sex or you want more. If you just want sex, then it really shouldn't matter if it happens again.
Back to the post I quoted above. Swing Lifestyle has this great feature now called "Groups" (we are hoping to add something like this here on SwingersBoard with the next software upgrade). Groups are great because they allow you to do just what IAPR suggested, find people with similar interests and build meets around those interests. For us, we like wine, and guess what there's a Wine M&G about 90 minutes from us. Unfortunately, it's mid-week usually, but still. Pet and I set up a Dinner M&G for local couples in our area. We like to eat out, and we like the idea of meeting lots of couples at once rather than going on a "date" with just one couple, so this works for us.
The point of IAPR's post in your previous thread and the point I'm making again is that you have to figure out a) what type of people you are looking for, b) what ways you are comfortable meeting them and then combine those two things together.
If what exists doesn't work for you (and this applies to anything swinging or not) then create something that does work for you. It's not about recreating the wheel, just about modifying one so that it fits your vehicle better.