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Originally Posted by GoNatural  Oh, my research about love and relationships to find that much of the theories behind polyamory are solid and biological. The polyprimary type relationship likely being the most natural, except that primitive humans were not honest and open about their secondaries. |
I don't know if that is so much the case, I think it's today's society that is dishonest about their secondaries, such as cheaters, and especially those that carry-on a long-term intimate relationship with someone else besides their primary partner. This is truly a "multiple love" situation, but without the openness and honesty of a true poly relationship, But, in every other sense it is a poly-like relationship, just without the "knowledge and consent of everyone involved" part.
I think primitive humans didn't see ownership of each other like we do today. Having such beliefs would not have been in the best interest of the survival of our species. Women in the tribe mated with many men to increase the chance of pregnancy and also the chances of a child reaching the age where they could produce offspring. You still see this in many "primitive" tribes today where a passage to womanhood is performed by a high-ranking elder of the tribe and then she is allowed to marry. And she may still mate with other men during her life, but raise her family in a mother/father/children household (huthold?). This type of intimate bonding also strengthens the unity of the tribe and the likelihood that one will protect the other against harm because they have an emotional interest in them.
Modern society and big cities have washed away this feeling of interconnectedness. There are some that are trying to revive it through poly relationships and communal situations. Events like Burning Man promote love of your brothers and sisters and living as a tribe for a weeks where no commerce past trading goods is allowed. I know that for us, we have had our "tribe" of friends that for awhile we were very close with. But, as life goes on and some accept jobs far away, couples change partners and life gets in the way of living, the tribe as it was evolves or wanes for awhile. But the love and concern for everyone hasn't. It's just changed.