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The way in which each one classifies a relationship that is both emotionally and physically intimate, is of course unique. Our own beliefs, upbringing, and awareness of what we think or care about how society views us are main drivers for the differences. Even on the extremes (no FWB swingers) they are still there to be close to other people. Denying emotional attachment and channeling all that into chemistry and the art of physical pleasure is their own way of connecting with others. Still, they are reaching out to others where most of society will only share that with one person......until they get divorced! Ha! So, in that sense...we are all poly!
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We see this too, and it's the biggest reason we ask the question "is swinging poly?" On the other side of the coin, emotionally monogomas couples are pretty much the norm in swingerdom. Maybe emotional commitment is the key to whether a relationship is poly or not?
Have to admit we feel a lot in common with prettylady. We love our friends, but our relationship with each other is very different from the relationship we share with our friends. We've become very close to some of the couples we play with, but we have completely seperate lives, and love each other as friends, not as committed lovers.
But there is a big difference between sex with emotionally connected friends verses sex with strangers. New partners can be wonderfully exciting and fresh, but when there is an emotional connection the sex is very intense and satisfying. We usually start out on a purely physical level with a new couple. If we share chemistry and enjoy each other's company, great, if a close friendship grows, all the better. Friendship takes time. It takes time and experience to build trust, love even more so.