 Re: Is Swinging Poly?
Thank you, prettylady! Your distinction makes a lot of sense. Would love to hear more of your perspectives.
Just for the sake of discussion, here's a question: if you love someone dearly (who you are having sex with as often as life allows) how can it not be poly? (Or as others here have called it, poly-lite?) You are emotionally connected, committed friends who love each other, and your relationship is something the four of you have worked out together, agreed upon by all. Isn't that the basic definition of poly?
Or is it not poly because your marriage is absolutely first, and your friends are completely subordinate? Can't there be "un-equal" loves? (Your spouse totally first, your friends absolutely secondary.) Can one be committed to and in love with their friends, but still keep their spouse pre-emminant? - a heirarchy of loves? Assuming the way you love your friends is different from the way you love your spouse, does that make it not love? (polyamory = multiple loves)
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