[Spoomonkey]

The "Blue Raja" would simply suggest spooning (Mystery Men reference... Forgive me if you don't get it).

I don't think anyone here is going to be able to tell you how to "get her past" her resistance. She feels how she feels - and most men around here didn't "talk" their wives into it.

The first step is really respecting her. Start there. You'd be surprised by just how much respecting her will accomplish. It will give her the freedom and confidence to talk you about the things she really wants. Who knows - you may end up in threesomes, or at a BDSM club with whip marks, or on some beach somewhere watching her para-sail.

Women really do want to live life to the fullest - when they feel like they can do so without undue pressure form their husbands who - of course - want lots of sex. Your trick is to find out what "life to its fullest" means to her.

If it turns out being threesomes, come back and tell us!

Spoomonkey