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Originally Posted by gatorvol64  WesternSwing, I can't argue with you at all.
One of my biggest issues with our quad is that others may view it as all about the sex. |
I think many outside of alternative relationships do, and I personally feel it's because society puts so much emphasis on the reason behind marriage
is sex. The whole "abstinence before marriage" that is pushed upon kids from the time they are born. So you have a bunch of horny kids confusing being horny with being "in love" and getting married to justify having sex. Sex = love in their mind. Sex becomes more important than love. So when someone has a relationship with someone else outside their marriage or primary relationship, it must always be about sex, right? Because that's the reason we hook-up, right? Sex is all they see.
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Originally Posted by mick2150 I did find it a bit disturbing as I read a few of the thoughts above .... the concept that the great big over-whelming vanilla crowd would rather be accepting of the cheating & lying crowd (sniggers - "Oh, it is done all the time!!") than swingers & polys, who may not walk exactly the same path, but are pretty clear that in relationships (& life in general??) there has to be a better way than to cheat, lie, & be dishonest. |
I think this was hit on by rdy46227 in another thread when they mentioned that most of the general population avoids multiple relationships, or at least avoids having multiple relationships collide. Statistics show that approximately 40% of married couples are having multiple relationships, they are just avoiding having them collide with each other. And although outwardly society frowns upon this, internally it accepts it. Rarely, if ever, does cheating develop the fury of the do-gooders the way consensual open relationships does.