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Originally Posted by NandTfromCA  I don't think swinging led to polyamory but rather openness led to swinging and openness led to polyamory. |
I have sat down several times to try to post to this thread, but have given up every time until now. I figured I'd start by quoting NandTfromCA, because T put it so well.
To swing, we have to be open to the idea that sex with others can be fun without threatening our primary relationships. If we are also open to the idea that loving more than one does not pose a threat either, then polyamory is possible. But what
brings people to it, as the OP asked?
I suppose in our case it was an accident. There was a couple we were swinging with. They pronounced themselves a poly couple, but they were looking for a single woman for a three-way equal relationship, and we would not have seen each other for long because we weren't what they were looking for. They had a fire in their house. We offered them a place to stay while they made repairs. Once they were staying with us, things evolved. No one expected it to become what it has.
I was always disposed to have loving relationships with others, but before swinging those relationships simply didn't include sex. Mr. Fuse was not disposed to it. So for him,
I brought him to poly.