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Originally posted by JustAskJulie
You see where I'm going with this question then right? The idea that a woman who has just come out of a serious relationship is going to be a lot less likely to be looking for another one... and if anything would be interested in a situation where her sexual needs can be met while being around friends... without any pressure for more than that.
Does that sound about right? |
Says it all for me. Out of the 15 years I was "single" I wasted three years on a married man (I didn't know he was married) and five were spent with Gene, who is now my husband. For two years prior to meeting him, I had refused to date anyone. I was sick of the playing the role of an available girl, (not tooting my horn here) but one that guys wanted to marry. No siree. In plain and simple terms, I wanted to get laid. Nothing more. No emotional commitments, no wining and dining. In all honesty, I would have much preferred someone that I was sexually attracted to, to say "To hell with dinner, let's fuck". And it would have been just that, nothing more. Unfortunately the only guys I would meet were just a tad too respectable for that. They wanted to wine, dine and romance. And for the record, my husband was the same way too. It took him five years though to convince me that tying the knot was the best way to go. I couldn't argue that point and have never regretted it. He is a sweetheart.
If I were to find myself single again, (fingers crossed and knocking on wood that I won't) knowing what I know now....
I would definitely look at swinging as an alternative to dating until the time I would be emotionally ready for another relationship. Marriage is the greatest, but I wouldn't want to play the same games that I did in my younger years again.
Lori