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... Gatorvol, Couldn't ya have just asked us how we feel about condoms?
Our kids do know about our lifestyle. As do some, if not all of the mans side of the family. We have always shown respect for our children's privacy while they were growing up. It was like, we didn't make them clean their rooms. If they wanted a messy room so be it, It was their space their privacy. If the door was closed the door was closed. Somehow with that, it turned out they invited us in, and in return we invited them in. When they had problems they came to us, but only after we had shown that there was no punishments for what they would come to us with, no matter what. They saw us as loving parents that had regular problems, when they would occur we would always say "We will get through this" Its passed on in their marriages now, They are the ones that say "we will get through this".
Our lives are different because when our son(the oldest) first found out, he just said "Oh you guys are swingers" pretty much played it off as nothing. Our kids are all close enough that within a few hours they all knew. They talked amongst themselves before they brought it back to us. They put things together and knew we would let them bring any issues to us, they couldn't understand. They pieced it together that mom was always really close to her friends. What we didn't know ourselves at the time they picked up on. Kids know more than they admit to. A closeness that was above the (normal friends) like their friends had.
We really didn't have to explain a whole lot. Like We say they grew up knowing they could talk to us about their private stuff like sex, and they did. Some of the stuff as they were growing up talking to us, actually shocked us. We always showed confidence that Mom and Dad were o.k. They wouldn't have to be concerned about us as much, as we worried about them(their lives). Their normal lives, that they were facing growing up. If that makes any sense. Its just accepted without asking personal questions about our sex lives.
Our daughter was watching me here on the swingers board the other day. She had came into the room and asked what I was up to. She knows. I couldn't hardly shut things off in panic. I told her we had met Julie and some other people from the website and how this was a discussion group about how we live(our lifestyle) Its not a porno site and she is married so she thought it was pretty cool. She was more interested in what I do to help Julie with keeping her website clean from spam, and trash like nasty sites. It wouldn't surprise us if they were all at home waiting to see what our answers are here.
What they know and have learned from us, is that they can have normal marriages. Normal lives. We as a couple have always tried to set an example that our marriage comes first. We made their lives safe to grow up normal. We focused more on them than us.