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Originally Posted by a. synonymy  This isn't an angle at all. Not sure why there's so much skepticism about this to begin with. I'm actually the wife speaking now, so I guess I can try to answer some questions myself even though I think my husband covered everything. |
First, welcome to the Board and thank you for coming by to read and post your thoughts!
Second, please don't mistake
some of us asking "why" to mean skepticism necessarily. Being a woman who is in an open marriage, I am interested in how other women get to their alternative relationships. That "why?" doesn't mean I doubt your motives or your veracity - it means I'm curious and what to know what YOU think about it. If you hang around, I think you'll see on any of the forums there is a lot of "why" and "how did you get there", and it's rarely a personal attack - it's just wanting to know and learn. That's what makes the place more interesting to me.
I will admit this whole assumption of the wife's angles and word games has been rather confusing to me, as well. This is the
Polyamory & Swinging forum. The OP took his time and picked his forum carefully. They are seeking something different from traditional swinging. They have considered swinging - they are now considering different alternatives. To label their desire to possibly allow the OP to add a relationship as something being off or a game is not exactly in the spirit of the Poly forum.
This is the one place they can come on Swingers Board; again, they posted on the Poly forum, not a general swing forum.
Please keep checking back - some of the others that post in this forum might still pop in, and I personally hope you'll continue to check out the relevant forums and participate. I personally appreciate hearing different perspectives.