First off I want to say
to the Mrs....Ok Im not sure why some see this as an angle or a trick eather it goes on everyday in the swing world.It seems to me that you are wanting for you hubby to have more of a poly relationship there are many threads on this site with the same situation you are proposing to your hubby.My advice in the earlyer post was just to talk it out and make sure the both of you are in the same book on the same page.No different than setting rules/boundrys for swing.
My wife and I are in the same type of relationship and although when we first talked about it I have to say I was a bit gun shy we talked it out and it works for us.The one differance is that the Mrs is Bi and would like to have a bi girl involved...I have to say it has not been easy finding play mates though we have talked about changing our boundys which there is a post here about it,we have since desided to stick to what we had origianly started we will wait it out!!!
GOOD LUCK to the both of you in your quest!!!!!!Dont let the nay sayers get you upset!!I have been reading the entire post and you have got a lot of good advice.There will always be questions for you.Dont let the few out weigh the many.....ENJOY YOURSELVES THAT IS WHAT THE LIFESTYLE IS ALL ABOUT......