[WesternSwing]

I agree wholeheartedly with rpu3, it's easier for a married woman to find a willing third than a married man, for the exact reasons she outlined. Like the old joke goes, women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place. Most single women are looking for relationships that will go somewhere, hopefully toward marriage. You're not the person to give them that. Yes, there are some looking for friends with benefits, but they are few and far between, and again, they can get that with single guy friends.

For instance, both my wife and I placed profiles on OKCUPID. I didn't get a single response from anyone. Her email inbox was flooded daily with men looking to get some from a married woman. But, for both single men and women, the idea that you have your spouse's permission to have an outside relationship is hard to wrap their minds around. Most of these guys were freaked-out by the idea of meeting me and a MFM threesome was definitely out of the question. The idea of a banging a cheating wife like in porn was a huge turn-on for them though.

Now for a woman, this is even more intense, plus the fact that for more women then men, the idea of playing with a cheating spouse is not a turn-on.

So after all this dissertation on the whys, here is the hows as we've come to experience it. We meet these women together as as couple. When they get to know us together they understand what our relationship is and where they'd fit into it. If I was to meet them without Mrs. WS and try to explain it to them they'd think I was cheating.

For instance, we were at a concert at a smaller local venue in December. Mrs. WS met this gal who was there with a friend, they hit it off, she introduced her to me, there was also attraction between us, we flirted all together all night, and we exchanged phone numbers before we went home. Less than a week later I was having play dates with her.

Similar thing happened this weekend when we went to a local night club. Before the night was over we met one woman who was in an open relationship and another who mentioned something about swingers (feeling us out I think) and when we told her we are she immediately gave her number to Mrs. WS and asked Mrs. WS for mine, too.

These are women we met in non-swinging situations and we met together and seemed to be interested in pursuing a relationship with us as a couple, either together or solo on occasion.

This may not work for you, but for us, it is the only way we've ever met other women to include in our relationship.