[tittietwister]

All good thoughts but one size doesn't fit all. Swingers and social polys or light polys are all mashed into SLS or competitor sites. I think the confusion is that people aren't aware of the distinction between swinging and polyamorus types and so swingers try to interpret social poly's in their frame of reference and vice versa. They talk past each other.

Polys are a different breed but have nowhere else to go so they make do within the swinging community as a subculture. Of course, the pure swingers view polys as unrealistic with the high value they place on varying degrees of "loving" (swinger red alert word) in relationships.

We really wish people understood the distinctions as we think there are enough social poly's out there (or people who say they are swingers but are really poly's) to support a web site. Unfortunately, we have only found online communties for extreme poly's.

Ultimately, honesty is the only way through this. You state in your profile or in person exactly what you are looking for and let the chips fall where they may. We have made the utmost effort to be clear in our profile - we state that we distance ourselves from the traditional notion of swinging - and I must say it is working well for us. We are attracting like couples who also feel "distant" from the pure swingers.