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Originally Posted by Averygoodgirl 
LM321...if you want to know something hunny just ask...
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Asking questions and requesting further information is something I do quite often in the forums; that's why I said, "Explain this please" in my post. You have explained a lot of things and I appreciate that.
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Originally Posted by Averygoodgirl
LM321...
3. Your assumptions only reveal your own views on the men you have been lying with. As I have NEVER stated I have been or would ever allow someone to mistreat me. I said he "feared" I would become desperate.
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This passage from your post has me boggled. I couldn't find where you said "he feared I would become desperate" so I don't know what you're referring to. And I've never suggested that you would allow someone to mistreat you.
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When I questioned how you could have been swinging since 14 years of age, I wasn't questioning if you were having sex at that age, rather, I questioned how you could be "swinging" at that age. Reading your second post I think there was initial confusion because we each define things differently.
I know some girls have sex at age 14 (and younger) but I don't define that as swinging even if girls have multiple partners or threesomes at that age; I consider it simply sex. I see it as being non-monogamous. Some people even realize early on that they're "a natural" for polyamory.
Your SLS profile was opened in 2006 and your boyfriend has been swinging for 5 years (based on your SB profile). Finding swingers through swinger ad sites who understand poly is difficult. Sounds like you have had many great years of enjoyed relationships that you came upon without any need for swinger ads and now that you've been trying the swinger ad route it isn't bringing you the satisfaction you seek.
If you decide to continue to use ad sites, your profile is the first impression people receive. Writing a good profile is challenging because you have a small space that has to sum up who you are and what you want, and do it in a way that will attract who you seek.
I got the impression from your OP that you were open to comments on your SLS profile, and that is why I commented on it. If you would like other opinions about it there is a great long-running thread called
"Couples Profile Reviews" where other members can offer advice.
LM