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Ave Satanas · 01-15-2008, 10:55 PM

So I had expected to be told that I shouldn't have hit the guy, that it was bad behavior, immature, etc. I agree there were better paths I could have taken. But at the time, there was no straight 'no' that MEANT 'no', only a shrug off after being put under the assumption that a foursome is exactly what we were there for. And like I mentioned, on my end things were heading that way.

I suppose deep down I knew that this guy and I were (and still are!) good enough friends that the hit wouldn't be a huge problem. I suppose that might be because we're younger and will hit one another half the time just for the hell of it. And anyone who knows hockey guys knows that fighting isn't a HUGE thing for us. In the end, the guy later offered to take another hit, saying he himself felt like he had it coming. And I should probably mention to everyone that regardless of what I did that night, odds are that I would never, NEVER hit a member of another swinging party just because they shot down my girlfriend. Had it been someone else, the circumstances would have been different.

But as for appearing in good taste, mature, etc... I did not care, and am not sorry. Maybe I'm just stubborn like that. But where maturity might be my problem, some of those who have pointed this out might want to look at ageism as THEIR problem. Sure, bad taste is never good. But neither is a condescending attitude...

However, I respect everyone's opinion and appreciate the feedback I've gotten thus far. Especially since it seems like most everyone read the damn thing. That deserves a thank you in itself.

So to clear up some individual facts:
- we never MADE swingers of friends. From what we had been led to believe, they were swingers already. As for swinging with friends and all that... Eh, it's what we do and I don't think we're changing that.
- When we got a straight NO that meant NO, we were actually much better. That's when we went back and just enjoyed sex with one another and were honestly not angry. Everything angry happened before they gave us a straight no.
- We don't actually intend to steal this guys girlfriend away, that was actually a joke. I respect the hell out of this guy and would do a lot for him.

And with that I've got to go pick up the lady from work. Thanks for the feedback, the cast list (God that was funny. I could use more of that. Every guy likes getting compared to Brad Pitt), and the Fight Club reference. Can't wait for more.

I swear I'm more mature than you might be taking me for.

01-15-2008, 10:55 PM	#15 (permalink)
Ave Satanas Here to Stay Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 44 Location: California Status: Taken Male Swing Lifestyle Name:CoolestPeopleEver	Re: My Current Predicament So I had expected to be told that I shouldn't have hit the guy, that it was bad behavior, immature, etc. I agree there were better paths I could have taken. But at the time, there was no straight 'no' that MEANT 'no', only a shrug off after being put under the assumption that a foursome is exactly what we were there for. And like I mentioned, on my end things were heading that way. I suppose deep down I knew that this guy and I were (and still are!) good enough friends that the hit wouldn't be a huge problem. I suppose that might be because we're younger and will hit one another half the time just for the hell of it. And anyone who knows hockey guys knows that fighting isn't a HUGE thing for us. In the end, the guy later offered to take another hit, saying he himself felt like he had it coming. And I should probably mention to everyone that regardless of what I did that night, odds are that I would never, NEVER hit a member of another swinging party just because they shot down my girlfriend. Had it been someone else, the circumstances would have been different. But as for appearing in good taste, mature, etc... I did not care, and am not sorry. Maybe I'm just stubborn like that. But where maturity might be my problem, some of those who have pointed this out might want to look at ageism as THEIR problem. Sure, bad taste is never good. But neither is a condescending attitude... However, I respect everyone's opinion and appreciate the feedback I've gotten thus far. Especially since it seems like most everyone read the damn thing. That deserves a thank you in itself. So to clear up some individual facts: - we never MADE swingers of friends. From what we had been led to believe, they were swingers already. As for swinging with friends and all that... Eh, it's what we do and I don't think we're changing that. - When we got a straight NO that meant NO, we were actually much better. That's when we went back and just enjoyed sex with one another and were honestly not angry. Everything angry happened before they gave us a straight no. - We don't actually intend to steal this guys girlfriend away, that was actually a joke. I respect the hell out of this guy and would do a lot for him. And with that I've got to go pick up the lady from work. Thanks for the feedback, the cast list (God that was funny. I could use more of that. Every guy likes getting compared to Brad Pitt), and the Fight Club reference. Can't wait for more. I swear I'm more mature than you might be taking me for.
	Last edited by Ave Satanas; 01-16-2008 at 12:27 AM.