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Miss_Piggy · 01-15-2008, 10:05 PM

I can certainly see that mistakes were made on all sides. However, I don't see you as a lost cause for swinging. In fact, Kermit and I started out here at a very young age. (I think I was 21 and he was 22 or 23.) It's possible that we could have ended up in some messes in the first couple of years. I think we were just lucky with our first couple. They were older than us by about 10 years and they really had themselves figured out. They showed showed us an excellent model of how we should go about this. You do seem to be communicating well. The next step will be to keep your reactions to the unpredictable behaviours of others in check. As has been mentioned, others are fully within their rights to reject you for whatever reason. There is no reason to automatically assume that the rejection is your fault. You just have to pull up your confidence and roll with it.

01-15-2008, 10:05 PM	#12 (permalink)
Miss_Piggy mildly abnormal Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 1,437 Location: Sometimes Canada Status: I'm with Kermit	Re: My Current Predicament I can certainly see that mistakes were made on all sides. However, I don't see you as a lost cause for swinging. In fact, Kermit and I started out here at a very young age. (I think I was 21 and he was 22 or 23.) It's possible that we could have ended up in some messes in the first couple of years. I think we were just lucky with our first couple. They were older than us by about 10 years and they really had themselves figured out. They showed showed us an excellent model of how we should go about this. You do seem to be communicating well. The next step will be to keep your reactions to the unpredictable behaviours of others in check. As has been mentioned, others are fully within their rights to reject you for whatever reason. There is no reason to automatically assume that the rejection is your fault. You just have to pull up your confidence and roll with it.
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