[WesternSwing]

Wonderful and tragic is exactly it. In polyamory it's taking the good of the person with the bad. Swinging is seeing only the good, then they go home with their partner back to real life. It's like constant first date behavior. With polyamory you get all the little things, sometimes big things, that go along with that person, their foibles, their idiosyncrasies, their emotional issues. Everything you have to deal with with your spouse, you are now dealing with with the other person too. Polyamory is when sexual fantasy turns into real life, just like in any long term relationship. And like any long term relationship it takes work to make it work.