I agree with LikeMinds, your handle has allot to be desired. The kind of guys you are most wishing not to attract are the ones most attracted to a handle like that. The way your profile is worded also is a turn-on to that kind of guy. Less is more. State what you are looking for in a relationship with another guy and your boyfriend and don't get into the details of your sexual escapades. That can be saved for later.
All in all, if I just came across this profile I'd think it was a plant from either the website owners or a pay-for-porn enterprise and not a real profile.
That said, we've run into much the same crap you have when it comes to Mrs. WS finding a steady boyfriend outside our relationship. Many guys just don't understand the dynamics of how it all works. Most don't want to meet me at all, and that is a rule of ours. Whether it's a "boyfriend" of hers, or a "girlfriend" of mine, the general rule is that we both have to meet them and approve of them. We know they understand when they are as willing to have a threesome with both of us as they are to have sex with us individually. If a guy doesn't want me in the picture, that is a big red flag for us. Same goes for another woman, if she doesn't want Mrs. WS in the picture that is a big red flag. For us that says this person has other intentions going on or simply doesn't understand the dynamics of the situation and drama will ensue.
As far as the guys so, it seems what turns them on is the "I'm banging a cheating wife because her old man doesn't do it for her" scenario. Cheating is a turn-on for them, but having the husband's permission takes the fun out of it for them.
Can't fix that. You just have to be very upfront about what you are looking for and weed out the ones that don't get it. And changing your profile would be a big step toward that.
Some suggestions on your profile:
It starts out really good. Then it goes down hill. First, I'd take this out:
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I crave sex almost all of the time and desire my mouth and pussy to be filled with hot cum throughout the day.
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This says "Internet porn" not "polyamorous woman". I'd brief-down the description of your boyfriend. Be more right to the point, like "good looking, muscular, 200 lbs of fun" type stuff. You could delete the whole "tell us about your fantasies/real experiences" section. Unneeded. Just attracts the wrong element. Put something like "we can discuss this in person" in there. The last section is also good. I'd leave it. It even ends in humor. Good stuff there.
I would also add pictures of both of you to the profile. Make it look more like you both are looking for a poly-type situation, not just you. That way your boyfriend is included right from the get-go.
I hope that helps you a bit. We feel the same frustration sometimes.