[WesternSwing]

Okay, I can see what you mean by "V" now. Thanks for the definitions rpu3. For us, we have to know who the third is and we both maintain a relationship with them outside the bedroom. For instance, take Mrs. WS's current boyfriend. She's been seeing him for two months now. We all go to dinner together, we've caught a concert together, but until a week ago we'd never had a threesome, Mrs. WS always has seen him alone in a sexual manner.

So a "V" in the sexual sense, but not in the social or relationship sense.

This is simply because we like to know who each other is playing with, who they are, what their intentions may be, etc. If either of us gets a creepy feeling about the third than it is a no-go for launch. I have to approve of and be comfortable with Mrs. WS's friends and visa-versa. I know men and she knows women. Therefore we pick-up on stuff that each other might not.

I can see though, how some could carry on this type of relationship where both of the partners knew of each other, but did not know each other personally. Sometimes it might make the situation easier. We've been contacted by numerous single men that simply don't want to meet me for some reason or another (another thread subject, eh?), and Mrs. WS would probably have an easier time of finding another partner outside of swinging if we did things that way.