Merric ~
When I come across long-winded posts like yours, it becomes apparent early on if they contain any original thinking, and if any of the writer’s practical experience stands behind it.
On reading your posts I was reminded of a young man I knew in college who, after writing a very long paper for class, proudly asked me to read it. It was filled with statements from many sources he had researched, yet there was no fresh thought of his own to be found. Disconnected, wandering, and contradictory in places, it sadly lacked. He was so proud of it. I could see that copying other’s words made him feel empowered, worldly, and bright.
Based on your introduction post
here from April 2006 I have to ask, have you and your SO ever been involved in swinging?
If you are not speaking from experience as a swinger, have never included swinging with your SO as part of your life, you are a man on the outside looking in. Until you live as a swinger, you can’t know it as those of us who post - and are swingers - understand swinging in the real sense.
Asking swingers to embrace some sexual activity and then, if they don’t, accusing them of being “heartless” and making “snap judgments” tells me that you have no clue about swingers. I see nothing real in your ramblings as a self-proclaimed “theologian of amateur standing” other than a man who has made erudition his hobby. You are pontificating theories and bombarding us with a blather of stuff that has little or no relevance to living life as a swinger.
LM