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Originally Posted by LetsParty  Hi All!
The “hot wife” often sleeps with married men who are cheating on their own wives. These are also men in her everyday, vanilla world. A colleague from the same company; trainer from the gym; old friend; business networking group, etc.
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I personally would not condone this behavior. Too many people can get hurt (the wives left at home and the kids).
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My partner and I are never ones to judge others. We always believed the more open people are with sex, the Lifestyle, open-marriages, fetishes, honesty, etc. etc. the better.
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I call 'em like I see 'em. We all decide for ourselves whether we think a certain behavior is right or wrong. Even whether or not we'd play with a particular couple--is,essentially, a judgement.
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We’ve always said that the Lifestyle is not just about sex. Sex is the result of honesty, communication, open-mindedness, etc. I know you all understand, but the average vanilla may not.
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This, I think is a matter of perspective. I know when I was first married, I NEVER thought of having sex with anyone else. Heck, I tried for a year to talk my honey out of marrying me because I was his first lover and was terrified he'd decided he could "do better" ten years down the road. I wanted him to have more experience first. Swinging (to me) would have been lumped right in there with cheating.
NOW, I don't see it that way at all. Is it because we're in the lifestyle now? Quite probably. And while I agree with open-mindedness, honesty, and communication as healthy swinger attributes, not all swingers have them.
To answer another question in this thread: Are we (as swingers) above reproach from others (swingers or vanillas)? Nope. We're just as venerable to scrutiny as the next guy/gal/green hippo.
Just my $0.02.
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