[AdamInEve]

Thanks Maria, I just can't understand why he would tell anyone either. I guess it is because he is not real thrilled with us right now (for reasons I don't have time to go into now) and sides are being drawn with the neighbor issues. Our son works with the neighbor on occasion and considers him a friend, but really he just tries to pump him for info. Our son doesn't understand that he is not his buddy.

Anyway, I just had a talk with our son and let him know that if he can't respect our privacy it may be time for him to leave. I did tell him that the books were mine and I was just reading them because a few friends I know are in the lifestyle and I just found it interesting (which is the truth). I also told him his mother had no knowledge about it (hope he bought that) and now he has dragged her into something she wasn't even a part of.

As for the neighbor thinking his wife was cheating. Yes, he always has thought that, but it was never the case. And you are right Maria, he now thinks she is playing with us. He is wacky and there is nothing I can do about his crazy thoughts and won't even confront him about them.

I guess I was wondering has anyone else ever been discovered and how did they handle it? Being from a small community this is bound to get out.

Thanks, Adam