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Originally Posted by Acacia  Okay, so my husband and I are very new to this lifestyle and have only done soft swapping. We are friends with this couple who live a ways away from us, so we go up there about once a month to go out and party with them. We've done this for a while now. The last time we were there, the wife and myself started kissing and we took off our shirts and things were good. We basically made out with each other and the guys were touching us. Mostly my husband touching me and her husband touching her. It was very HOT!!They went to their room and we stayed in ours and the night ended.
My husband and I talked the next day and I told him OMG!! That was awesome. The other couple said they were cool with it too.
Okay, we were so stoked that this happened. Then a couple of nights ago, we all went out and went back to our hotel to have some drinks and whatever. The wife and I again were kissing and touching each other as we laid on the bed. Well, the lights were off and the guys had joined us on the bed. I felt hands on my ass and then fingers inside of me. I didn't care that it was her husband! (My husband was doing the same to her, I asked him later.) It was such a turn on! Well, suddenly the wife stops kissing me and just kinda lays there. I asked if she was okay and she said no. So we stopped everything and they guys went to the other room and I asked what the matter was.
She said she had issues with jealousy as her first husband had cheated on her. And that she liked what my husband was doing to her and what I was doing to her, but not what HER husband was doing to me.
She told me it is okay for her to touch and be touched by the other couple(us) but she doesn't want her husband to. Which is totally unfair. And to be honest, I wonder if she wants it to be all about her.
I don't know what to think. My husband doesn't want to swing with them any more as he thinks now it is awkward and uncomfortable. I don't know if they want to swing any more. To me, it's just sex and we all know that we are going home with our spouses. What are your thoughts?? |
Okay, I'll give you my opinion. I think she needs to either do MFMs or FFMs until she can deal with HER HER Her issues. They are NOT your issues. Perhaps it is because she is new, but it sounds like she has issues from her past...swingers know this as drama lol. Personally girl I would suggest continue having fun with other couples. It sounds like you and your hubby are on the right track. This will probably not be the last time you deal with couples with issues LOL, but you have to let things like that slide off of your back. Don't worry about it, its not your problem and not your issue. And I'm not saying she did anything wrong per se.....she just has things to sort out before allowing herself to get into that position again; she does that with less cordial couples and she will get her feelings hurt. It would just annoy the shit out of me personally that she doesnt mind getting HERS, she just wants her own husband to keep HIS hands to himself...very selfish. JMO