Charmed6879

We had a somewhat similar situation recently. We met a couple and liked them and thought we could be friends. We talked about her concerns at the first meeting, she told us she was nervous because it was her first time with a couple and we understood. After our talk everything was fine and she was feeling good about it all. We talked all week after the first meeting and we invited them over for a cookout and drinks the following weekend. We all knew that it was just to hang out and NOT a playdate because I had my monthly visitor that weekend and everyone was fine with it.

They came over and we ate and were just hanging out, drinking and talking and everything was fine as far as the other wife, myself and my husband knew. Then her husband asked to speak privately with my husband. Fine, she and I sat talking and neither of us had any idea what they were talking about. Well, they came back to where we were and we thought everything was fine, until mine went in the house (we were sitting on the swing outside) and stayed inside. I came and asked what was wrong and he told me that the other husband pretty much told mine not to look at or talk to his wife because my husband flirted with her too much. Well, I am the first to admit that he is a flirt, but he was not doing any major flirting with her, and she and I talked about it later and she agreed. The other husband said mine was "trying to make eye contact" whatever that meant and that he had over stepped his bounds because flirting was reserved for him, and only he was allowed to flirt with her. My hubby was not doing anything out of line, and was not being overly flirty at all, and actually the other husband was flirting more with me than mine was with her.

Well, over the next week or so we discussed this whole situation with them both and she said she was just as confused as we were, but that she understood??? I didn't understand that or the sistuation at all and neither did my husband. Finally, the other husband said that we could all still be friends as long as mine totally ignored her. We told him that we could not be friends with them at all, much less play with them unless we were both able to be comfortable with them both and we were able to be ourselves. That was the end of it, we talked like once the whole next week and on that occassion they called my husband, asked what he was doing and then let him go since he was working (he works in Emergency Management) but told my husband that they were just going to go to bed. Okay, except they then sent me a message on yahoo asking me to get on the webcam and play for them and went on to ask me if I (alone) wanted to come play with them. I was not cool with that. I said absolutely not. My husband talked to them once about the situation since then and what it boiled down to, they told him, was that they wanted to play with us, and they both wanted to play with me but they wanted N (my hubby) to watch and not touch or even talk to the wife at all.

We have basically written them off even as friends because of the whole mess. We ran into the at a club party that we both attended this past weekend and we were friendly to them, but we have decided that we do not want to try to have a friendship with them and we certainly do not want to play with them. Oh well, I have kids and my 9 year old brings enough melodrama into my life without being involved in any silly stuff with grown adults. I say write them off and move on.