So, MrVan, if I'm understanding MrsVan correctly, a FMF isn't a problem with her at all. It's just that she is as attracted to the blonde as you are and would prefer it to be a FFM with her. Knowing both of you from your posts, this won't be an issue with either of you. You'll both enjoy any time you have with the woman and seek the other elsewhere. Isn't it great to be married to someone you can explore it all with?
Vol