You are a COUPLE and plan to play as a COUPLE. Right?
DO what works best for the person you LOVE and then the playmates that fit you best will come.
Why on earth would do you somethng for strangers that you do not do with the person you care most about?
I really think what others want from you should make no difference. It is what YOU want from Yourself and what your life partner prefers that matter most.
We were told 'no one would play with us' cuz we didn't shave at the very first on premise club we went to-and people here at SB told us shaving was a big issue as well. (That was 2 1/2 yrs ago)
We decided we would always be able to play with each other and made the choice to stay who we are and happy with how we are-not to change for strangers.
We are very happy we didn't cave to 'peer pressure' and 'did it our way' cuz we DO play with many fun people who accept that how we look is our choice.
Are you going to get lipo or a boob job next to please strangers?
Talk this over with the person you love and together decide the boundaries of what you are willing to do or want to change in order to fuck other people. 