 Re: Question: Just hangin' out with other swingers
We're still in the "hanging out" with swingers group, even though we do full swap and soft swap. I'll explain.
When we go to conventions, resorts, parties, etc. it takes us time to get to know another couple to the level that we'd want to have sex with them. Often we do not swap, but same room sex with others around is very erotic.
When we first started going to swing clubs last year, we had no problem having sex in front of others and with others around us doing their own thing. Just watching and not doing anything with your spouse may be uncomfortable for some in your new group though. Just make sure everyone understands you are new and are slowly easing into the lifestyle.
So we're not quite ready to jump into bed with strangers. Does that make us non-swingers? I don't think so. I think it puts us into the "friends with benefits" or "newbie" category. If you're only into watching, then I think you would not be a swinger but a voyeur. Some clubs are fine with voyeurs too, just be clear on which category you fall.
Have fun!
Mrs. D
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