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Originally Posted by TNTCouple  I understand it takes time for some people. I don't think we'll be nonswingers forever but no one's been able to get my juices flowing enough for me to throw caution to the wind. Although I have to say I've come closer than usual with one particular guy, who also happens to be in the circle of friends we hang with. He's never made a move but I know there's some interest on his end too.
Time will tell.  |
I read through this thread rather quickly, so I may be mentioning something you've already tried.
Have you had any private meets with one couple for dinner or drinks at a public place that isn't a swinger club/social spot? Someplace at night where the atmosphere is comfortable and sexy (whatever that means to you, whether formal or very casual)?
If not, try this. It may be just the thing for you.
We've attended an off-premise private swingers club a lot this year and the atmosphere is so different than when we meet people privately. The club is noisy, it can be hard to carry on a conversation not only because of the noise but because there are always many other "friends" around who jump into the conversation. It can be hard for us to spend enough quality time with one couple to "get the juices flowing" enough to determine if we are ready to swing that night. It's a great place, and a fun social time, but it is much different than a private meet.
Me personally, when we are with one couple, and I can focus my complete attention on that man - and him me - the connection builds so much more easily and quickly. My husband feels the same way about the woman, and the four of us all bond more quickly.
That one guy you mentioned liking in particular, how about asking that couple out for a private meet? That could be the thing that takes you to a new level.
LM