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Originally Posted by TNTCouple  I understand it takes time for some people. I don't think we'll be nonswingers forever but no one's been able to get my juices flowing enough for me to throw caution to the wind. Although I have to say I've come closer than usual with one particular guy, who also happens to be in the circle of friends we hang with. He's never made a move but I know there's some interest on his end too.
Time will tell.  |
After reading this statement I wanted to clarify what Mr. GT was referring to. New swingers are a totally different issue than the, "I just like the atmosphere crowd."
We were all new to swinging once and we understand that everyone needs to go at their own pace. We are fine with that as long as we know up front. Just last weekend we spent the evening with a new couple just playing pool and talking about swinging. We had a great time.
The problem we have here are the couples that come to the club knowing that they have no intention of ever swinging, they just like the atmosphere or they just like to watch. The number of these types of couples as been increasing and has become a source of frustration for those of us that go to a swingers party to meet actual swingers.
As Western Swing said, they just move on to find the actual swingers, as do we, but sometimes even that is a problem. Some of these non-swingers have become friends over time and they do not understand that while we enjoy going out to dinner or doing vanilla things with them we do not plan on sitting with them the entire night at a swing club. We are there to meet swingers!
To give you an idea of how bad this problem is in our area we've been keeping track. On the last three occasions that we have been to one of our local clubs less than 20% of the people there were couples looking for couples full swap. Granted, we do not live in an area with clubs that have 200 attendees a night but when you have 30 couples at a party and only 6 are full swap couples it can be rather annoying.
So, I think you should continue to go to the club and in time you will know if this is your cup of tea or not.