[TNTCouple]

hubby and I have been in the lifestyle for about 3 months, but not actually in the lifestyle, if that makes sense. We found an awesome on-premises club and have become friends with the owner and his g/f and have been welcomed into their little inner circle where we get invited to do stuff with them outside the official parties. We're fun and (I'll just say it) attractive, IMHO. I would never just blurt that out if I didn't think it factored in.

Anyway, when we were in the talking-about-it stage, I was so into the swapping factor. Now that we're actually around it and I get approached all the time, I've backed off. It actually freaks me out now. I'm really turned off by the aggressive ones especially. I have no problem with jealousy and it has never been an issue with me or him. We've been together for 16 years (married for 13 years) and have a rock-solid bond and a very satisfying sexual relationship. There's absolutely no pressure from him, especially since it was my idea.

Now for the question: Are we (well, I) making the seasoned couples angry? I love to flirt and dance sexy and kiss. Most everyone knows I'm just not close to being ready for the deed. I'm not even comfortable enough to soft swap. I'm wondering if I ever will be. We've been to the common room to hook up with each other but then suddenly I get self-conscious. When I start getting smiles and those "come over here" looks. Could it be in my imagination? Is there some sort of term for people like me? I love to be around it and the people and want to keep going but eventually will I overstay my welcome? Most everyone's cool and understanding and respects where I'm coming from because I let them know up front. But are they just being nice and are secretly thinking otherwise?

I'm sure this question has been asked before but I did a search and couldn't find anything to solidly answer my question.