If there is a legitimate answer to this question, I would love to hear it. Training our kids is impossible, I think. We have 4 kids, three boys ages 11, 9, & 5, and a 5-month old little girl. Mommy & daddy time?
For just the two of us, sex only happens after 11:00 at night when we know the kids are asleep. Swinging? Only when the grandparents keep them, which is once every two or three months, and a couple of weeks during the summer.
Makes meeting new people hard.