[TNT]

Originally Posted by TNT

we proceeded to wear her out, again and again

Ted

Hmmm, nothing like being used as a human guinea pig

Originally Posted by petdenneedsmore

Why did the couple do that when I was not there? Why did they not wait? Why did they not ask first of us at all? Why did he say nothing all night as to his plan with her? How did she get in that position? (She can not remember moving by the way). Why did she not realize what was going on all night? (Again she says that she had no idea what he was doing during the evening and at the time she squirted she still did not realize that either!)

Not sure that any of us can answer those questions.

Did he have as a matter of right the approval to do anything he wanted with my wife because we were swinging, even though we had not actually said so?

Did either of you say "no" at anytime during the playing? Unless there has been a specific "No, don't do this or that" how is anyone suppose to know what is off limits and what isn't? No one is a mind reader.

Should this couple (and the man in particular) told us of his intent and asked us first?

Maybe, maybe not...I'm not sure that he had a particular intent unless it was to make sure your wife had a good time and isn't that what we're involved in swinging for?

Should he have gone for gold when he knew I was out of the room? (and he DID know)

Trust me...if the timing had not been just right, it wouldn't have happened whether you were there or not.

Should he have involved us and spent time teaching us instead of just going ahead on his own (remember from our initial meeting he was aware of our interest in the topic)?

Did you ask him to teach you?

If you say that he did not have to talk to us and ask first, then why?? Surely in this lifestyle communication and involvement is the key………..”May I try to get you to squirt this evening” would have been a good starting point instead of saying nothing!!

"Why" questions really can only be answered by those who caused the question to be asked.

Ladies, my wife has told me she had no idea that he was trying to get her to squirt and she did not know she had either, until they were telling her after she came etc! Is that possible?

So do you think she would have known and is covering or is it possible to be naive here? (Considering we have tried the SAME technique before and have read articles!)

As far as your wife not knowing that the man was "trying" to get her to squirt...yes it's possible.

Not knowing that she had... also possible.

My guess is that your wife felt a very intense feeling that she had never experienced before...it felt good and she was probably just enjoying it to the point of not realizing what was happening...she was in the moment.

As you journey through swinging there are going to be times that you will "miss out" on being there when something new happens. What you have to decide is if you're going to let those times have a positive or negative impact. Right now you are letting it have a negative impact...stop the blaming, whining, pouting game and be happy for your wife and her new experience.

Play together and learn how to recreate the experience. Squirting for the first time is great but...once you learn how to make it a reoccurring experience it only gets better.


Teresa