 Re: The other male and his secret agenda
I can see your reasons for feeling left out and perhaps a little threatened. However, I'd strongly urge against getting too worked up about it. You'd be perfectly within your rights to say that you didn't want to play with that particular couple again, if you really believe that they were intentionally trying to exclude you. Or, you may decide that you want to keep playing with them in order to learn their "tricks." Whatever you choose to do, try not to get too upset about it. The only person who is going to hear those upset feelings is your wife. Chances are she's already feeling a little weirded out about you not being included in the big event. If you get too angry you push yourself even further away. This is a time to talk to her about what the experience was like. Ask her if she can teach you how you can help her get there again. And do make sure to keep the pressure to "get it right" as low as possible. Just enjoy the process. Even if it takes you a year to figure it out... or more... you want to agree to have fun practicing.
Just don't let this come between you and your wife. Dwelling on the other guy's "secret agenda" really has the potential to do that.
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