To the OP, no you are not crazy! The benefits of such an arrangement would be wonderful! My only concern would be getting multiple people to agree to particular rules or expectations, but it is possible to reach an agreement.
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Originally Posted by imapolygirl Poly people often draft and commit to a written agreement called a condom compact, where everyone who is in the group gets tested for STDs, then tested against after six months. If all is clear, then they are no longer required to use condoms when being sexual with others in the group. These agreements can be very specific as to what is OK to do outside the group and what isn't OK. Naturally, there are no guarantees, and everyone involved must pledge quite seriously to honor the agreement, but this system seems to work and work well for polys who are in intimate networks. There's no substitute for getting to know your potential partners well and getting a sense of their personal integrity before having unprotected sex with them. |
imapolygirl, where would I have to live to get involved with such a wonderful group?
Second, is the term for that situation that you described called "fluid bonding"?
It appears to me that whether or not the group as a whole desires polyamory could be discussed beforehand. If the group does not want to invite any emotions beyond friendly caring and affirmation, then the group would be just a swinging-fidelity group. Poly is negotiable. Nevertheless, we again seem to run into a discussion about that blurred line when it comes to swinging and building close friendships.