Kissing a total stranger?
I'd rather start at the top...right on their lips.
For us, we couldn't imagine getting to the other body parts without kissing. If I couldn't kiss it would feel clumsy...like trying to walk in shoes that were three sizes too big.
Once we met a couple privately, spent a couple hours with them at dinner and decided to invite them back to our place to play. It was about an hours drive to our home. We sat around in the living room with our drinks, moving towards the sex, when they hit us with their "no kissing" rule.
The night ended right there.
They hadn't mentioned their no-kissing rule in their profile and our profile specifically mentions that we're real big on kissing!
Turning down sex at that point may sound harsh on our part, but we just lost our appetite then and there. We think of it this way, we wouldn't have asked someone to meet us if they had a specific rule that didn't mesh with our own guidelines and we wouldn't try to change their play style for us. We felt we'd been mislead and that's what took the zip out of the meet.
Our feeling is, if you decide not to kiss, that's fine, just let people know well in advance.
LM