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Originally Posted by burned out Another disagreement from a newbie. The Mrs wanted to see what all the fuss was about and the "not so local" club was a great way to expose her to it (pun intended). We still aren't swapping but she is totally comfortable with the club and has gone much farther than she would have in an apparent "all or nothing" situation like an internet hook-up. She still wouldn't be comfortable setting up a date with an unknown but is totally comfortable with the exhib/voy stuff we can do at a club. Our standing joke about the "rules" now is, "What are we absolutely, positively NOT going to do?" She usually changes her mind at the club and we inch another step forward. |
Exactly how we started, I'm very experienced and have been around the block a lot more than she has, not to mention she has extremely limited experience. However she is very adventurous and interested, though leary.
Once we started to go to clubs she started to open up, got much more comfortable. Things are not full bore atm, but getting there.
I think overall patience is the key, yes ... the goal is sex, and lots of it. However, have to take your time getting there so you have good experiences, and diminish the chances of bad ones.