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mnbryant · 09-08-2007, 06:30 AM

Yes it was a threesome so I was not left out in that way. I did leave the room a couple of times by my own choosing to try to make things more comfortable for him. After posting this today a little later I figured out what it was. He dates a girl that works with my wife that is bi. He does not like girl on girl situations and he does not know she is bi. They are not exclusive with each other to my understanding so I agreed to it. My wife does not want her to know about him and had considered talking to her until he said he didn't want her involved. the feeling left out comes from doing what he wanted. if they are not exclusive then what difference does it make if we have them both over seperately. She also only wants to do him..couples has never been and option. we have meet some and soft swapped ,girl girl situations but that is all. Of the 4 or 5 couples we have met the ones we really liked never talked to us again. I have no idea why but that is why we stopped meeting people online. I hard swapped once with a woman that was married and he wanted her to swap even though he wasn't allowed. As far as the points thing I agreed to this knowing it could take a long time to find someone.In 3 years we have never found one single girl online and I will have to do it locally. It may never happen but she has brought this up. Tonight I told her how I felt about it and well guess I should have kept my mouth shut. I was acused of keeping points just because I want to move toward meeting someone. This girl might not even be interested. But I would like the chance to find out. As far as the fact she works with her my wife had no problem with it till he said he did'nt want her involved. She later said she was afraid she might tell it at work. that is understandable but if he ends up telling or she finds out your are in the same boat. I told her tonight that to me that sounds like you will take the chance for you but not for me. I guess I am being selfish to want to do it to. But no matter she got mad and at this point it is over. She is no longer going to do it. Am I keeping points by wanting to move toward meeting someone. Am I being selfish to feel that way about this situation. I have never posted on a board like this but it is great to have another channel to express yourself and get feedback....thanks for all your input.

09-08-2007, 06:30 AM	#4 (permalink)
mnbryant Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 18 Location: Tupelo Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:for_real	Re: Dealing with feeling left out Yes it was a threesome so I was not left out in that way. I did leave the room a couple of times by my own choosing to try to make things more comfortable for him. After posting this today a little later I figured out what it was. He dates a girl that works with my wife that is bi. He does not like girl on girl situations and he does not know she is bi. They are not exclusive with each other to my understanding so I agreed to it. My wife does not want her to know about him and had considered talking to her until he said he didn't want her involved. the feeling left out comes from doing what he wanted. if they are not exclusive then what difference does it make if we have them both over seperately. She also only wants to do him..couples has never been and option. we have meet some and soft swapped ,girl girl situations but that is all. Of the 4 or 5 couples we have met the ones we really liked never talked to us again. I have no idea why but that is why we stopped meeting people online. I hard swapped once with a woman that was married and he wanted her to swap even though he wasn't allowed. As far as the points thing I agreed to this knowing it could take a long time to find someone.In 3 years we have never found one single girl online and I will have to do it locally. It may never happen but she has brought this up. Tonight I told her how I felt about it and well guess I should have kept my mouth shut. I was acused of keeping points just because I want to move toward meeting someone. This girl might not even be interested. But I would like the chance to find out. As far as the fact she works with her my wife had no problem with it till he said he did'nt want her involved. She later said she was afraid she might tell it at work. that is understandable but if he ends up telling or she finds out your are in the same boat. I told her tonight that to me that sounds like you will take the chance for you but not for me. I guess I am being selfish to want to do it to. But no matter she got mad and at this point it is over. She is no longer going to do it. Am I keeping points by wanting to move toward meeting someone. Am I being selfish to feel that way about this situation. I have never posted on a board like this but it is great to have another channel to express yourself and get feedback....thanks for all your input.