[WesternSwing]

Two years ago it was much the same way for us. Mrs. WS had a steady boyfriend who was a single guy we had met and played with and it developed into more of a poly situation. I was traveling allot so she would go out with him and the several couples in our 'tribe' and play with them. In fact I only once played with one of the wifes in one of the other couple and to this day I've never played with another one, but both husbands have been with Mrs. WS on numerous occasions.

So I know how you feel. I felt that although I was getting plenty from Mrs. WS and also from others when we did play as a couple, I wasn't playing alone and she was, and she was definitely getting more action than I.

Then I thought to myself, "Self... this is stupid. Instead of being happy for her having such a great time I'm being selfish and envious, and I shouldn't be."

So I quit keeping score. It was killing the fun of the whole thing. When I did I started taking more joy in her experiences, with and without me. And she definitely always thanked me over and over and over for allowing her that freedom and never complaining about it.

Eventually it kind of came around. I've had several solo playtimes with other women in the past year and Mrs. WS has had no solo play with other men.

I think it just goes in cycles. Just accept it for what it is today, enjoy it, and be glad that even if it doesn't seem 'fair', you're still doing what many other men would love to do and never will.

Mr. WS