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Originally Posted by mnbryant I enjoyed it and want her to enjoy it but the problem is that I have been feeling left out. I don't think I should feel this way and she also feels like it is not fair but we do not know any single ladies to approach...Swing Lifestyle is not good for single females in our area. 3 years and no one close is interested. It would be nice to have someone for both but that could take a long time....I do not want her to feel guilty about it so how do I get passed feeling left out.....also I have not told her I feel that way.... |
Two solutions, and you can use both of these simultaneously:
With the high school friend (single guy), you could have a MFM threesome so you're not left out. Did you just sit there and only watch, while the two of them had regular MF-couple sex? A threesome with two straight men works very well, and both men can be actively involved at the same time. For example....while her friend is having intercourse with her, she could be giving you oral, or vice versa. Would you feel less left out if it were like this?
Secondly...rather than trying to manufacture a couple out of her single guy friend and some unknown single female that you'd have to recruit, the simple solution is to meet other couples! I know you said your wife doesn't want to do "strangers", but you could meet couples who have a preference of taking things slow and getting to know each other for awhile before sex happens. It could happen very gradually, as slow as you like, by going something like this:
Meet, connect on a personality level, and begin to make friends with them, going out a few/several times >
play flirty/sexy board games or strip poker, a little kissing or touching with the other couple, followed by having sex with your own spouse >
eventually enjoying full swap with the other couple when your wife is ready for that.
There are other couples out there like you, and other women who feel the way that your wife does.