 Re: Feeling guilty for not liking it more
Anon, in my mind, your brain is not playing tricks on you. It is doing exactly what you have trained it to do, all those years ago. I've often wondered what the impact of "living nude" as a family might be. It occured to me that
learning that the body is not merely sexual might have some unintended repercussions; such as, I believe, what you've described.
So you trained yourself that your father's body was not sexual. Cool, and as it should be. Now in your sexual life you find a body like his. Your brain does
not see it as being sexual. It's doing what you taught it, like a good brain should. I don't think that you can undo that training overnight - or even by next month.
My suggestion would be to, first share your childhood story with the other couple. Let them know where you're coming from. Then suggest a learning situation for all of you. For example, y'all might start exploring the sensuality of silk or satin; as in lingerie (his and hers) or bedding and focusing on the stimuli of that feeling instead of the visual stimuli. Another possibility might be trying different massage oils and lotions and fragrances. The purpose here is to give everyone a new begining/experience - make everyone equally innocent and naive. Hopefully, the four of you will continue to find your way in a growing friendship.
Best of luck to you!
Smiles!
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