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Old 08-19-2007, 01:23 PM   #4 (permalink)
Tybee Swing
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Default Re: Wife interest FFM

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Originally Posted by sabe69
Am I being overly optimistic to think that dancing with another female was making her horney?
No, it's not a stretch at all that going dancing and dancing with a woman probably made her horney. Watching you and the other husband watching her probably made her horney. But, it's a huge stretch to jump to the conclusion that this means she wants threesomes and sex with a woman.

Very often, men make these big leaps in their minds. Very often, a woman just enjoys a fantasy, a thought about something, a slight flirtation, dancing for your visual enjoyment, and that's all she needs to stoke her sex drive. Many women who enjoy a fantasy don't want anything more than that in real life.

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Originally Posted by sabe69
What can I do to encourage this behavior in her, as I found it very stimulating as well?
Take her dancing more often. ("This behavior" meaning dancing with women.)

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Should I encourage further instances, perhaps massage. My wife is the type that enjoys being seduced. Should I secretly encourage another woman to attempt to seduce her? Where would I find another woman to help the situation develop?
Now you've crossed into the VERY PUSHY realm. Your wife is likely nowhere near wanting you to go find some other woman, and spring a threesome on her, especially without even talking to her about this first. I'd be pissed as hell if my husband was this presumptuous. Arranging sex partners for me behind my back would be a huge mistake... and we swing.

My advice: Calm down and back off. Anything more than taking her dancing more often and letting her figure out her own desires for herself, letting her talk about her feelings about it, is pushy and will likely result in a backlash of her resisting the entire notion due to your pushiness. Relax.

When she comes home horny from dancing, enjoy. At the right moment, you can tell her that it turned you on to see her dancing so seductively, and dancing with a woman. That's all she needs to know - she'll know that it turns you on. Tell her what a hot, sexy lady she is. If she gets to a point of wanting to explore further, she'll let you know.
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