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Originally Posted by jnhinsd ever since i havent been able to get over the fear of a (sequel) that i have purposely flaked out on every single couple that has requested to play with us |
I'm sorry that you have gone through this! I don't know what to tell you that will help you relax. Number one, women who have been in the lifestyle for awhile should not freak out or become angry or upset if this happens if you are honest from the beginning and satisfy her in other ways. But it sounds like this is a mental issue....like your manhood and confidence have been hit. One thing that I would suggest would be to try soft. Have sex with your wife around another couple. Also, I still say that getting to know a couple well would do you wonders. Go to dinner with them, maybe just go to a bar once or twice (of course, if this is a couple that is cool with that) just to get to know each other. I think if you could get to know her to the point of relaxing you would do great. And there are TONS of men that are like this, you are NOT alone! Lots of men do not perform on the first play date. Shelly