 Re: performance anxiety?
Mr. P here.
Advice here has been spot on. The Mrs and I have had a few encounters, and even though we consider ourselves seasoned enough to be over the "sensory over stimulation" portion of the lifestyle, I still occasionally run into this. I would submit that a majority of men who are in this lifestyle have run into a situation where not all parts were cooperating with the master plan of the evening. Hell, happened to me last night!
A few things will help you though this. Keep at it! Once your mind sorts it all out and can settle down, your dick will follow. It's a lot like trying to talk a cat out of a tree... It takes time and patience!
Don't let past performance define future expectations. If you get hard enough to cut diamonds with the wifey, then you know that from a physiological standpoint you're good to go. Just relax and go with the flow. If your man shows up to party, great! If not, fall back on that mindblowing oral you've been learning! If you can relax and concentrate on getting her off, sometimes it's just the distraction you need to get your mind off the problem! If not, again. So be it!
If you're with a couple you feel uncomfortable with or in a situation you're uncomfortable with don't expect miracles, correct the problem. If you're distracted by your wife and the other guy having all the fun, propose a switch! She knows your buttons better then the other F, especially since you just met her an hour ago! If you're with a couple that can't respect that, you're with the wrong couple.
This one is nearly impossible, I know, but it bears mentioning. Don't get too concerned about what she's thinking about your problem. You're the man, not your dick! If she's playing with you and it ain't happening, time to turn the tables and get her squirming!
Beyond all of that, just relax and do what feels right and comfortable. The rest will follow suit when it's good and ready to!
Mr P
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