[jdtpcouple]

Thank you to everyone who replied, and for all your support. I greatly appreciate getting so many responses to my situation.

Originally Posted by Chicup

Your questions are valid but only valid if you are dealing with a logical individual.

No kidding. I have learned over the years that my mom will initially respond with emotion. She feels that emotion, deals with it (eventually), then and only then can logic or reason be introduced. The people she'll talk to though...my step-dad, grandma, aunts...they'll be more likely to hear me when I speak in the language of "common sense."

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Show your mom the message you have left here. It sounds like you spoke well.

Thanks, I intend to repeat the part about teaching my kids about sex verbatim. Probably to someone who will be open to hearing me though.

Originally Posted by SuAndBud

Sometimes we have to treat our parents in the same way that we treat our kids in that, whilst not agreeing with them or their actions, neither should we shut them out, but must always leave the door ajar for their hoped prodigal return.

Originally Posted by roandronni

My attitude has always been this is me now, if you want me in your life you need to accept it.

This is the attitude I took at 17 also. I am, who I am, if you choose to be a part of my life...great! If not, I respect your decision to believe what you will and will gladly welcome you back should you find a way to reconcile your religious conflict.

Originally Posted by SuAndBud

Many of these will be being genuine to themselves, but some may be closet-curious themselves or even downright intrigued, but afraid to admit it.

LOL. I just named 3 sets of vanilla friends that fit the 3 descriptions above. That's the reason we don't openly present our lifestyle to them. We know they won't get it & don't expect them to, but if they're asking...

Originally Posted by tribbles

I wouldn't let anyone throw judgements at me...I'd walk away. I live as I want, they are free to do the same. No discussions with judgements are worth having.

I think this is true in theory, but in practice I would alienate friends who may not agree, but who won't necessarily walk away from the friendship either.

Originally Posted by SuAndBud

You might wish to point out that friendship is one of the greatest of gifts

Golden, this is exactly what I was looking for. In the short time that we've been active in the lifestyle we've met two couples that I could realistically see having lasting friendships with. I would not have thought to make that point though, so I thank you for bringing it to my attention.