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Originally Posted by bethncole This one shouldn't be on the list. Clubs are for experienced or advanced couples. Newbies are overwhelmed there and it can drive them away from the lifestyle all together |
I have to totally disagree with this one, the first thing we did was go to an on-premise club and I think it was one of the better decisions we made when we were newbies. It allowed us to meet a lot of people in a short period of time. Had we went the online route first, I am positive we would not be swinging today, because it is too much work for very little and infrequent reward and most of the folks we have met online just weren't a good match for us, so it would have become very disappointing real quick. The biggest advantage to going to a club right off the bat was that we were able to put to rest our fears that swingers were a bunch of sex crazed wackos, it only took one club visit to realize that most swingers are regular folks just like us.
My opinion is that going to the clubs is the best way for a newbie to get into the lifestyle. Apparently a lot of others feel the same, as it has been our experience that, on average, about 20% of the attendees at a club on any given night are newbies. If someone goes to a club and they are overwhelmed, they just aren't ready yet, and I sure wouldn't want to waste my time meeting them through an ad site.
We were nervous as hell the first night we went to a club, and the one we chose was the wildest club we have ever been to, many of the things we saw that night wouldn't even be allowed at most of the clubs we have attended. It didn't overwhelm or intimidate us in the least though, because the people we met were great and made us feel welcome.