[SuAndBud]

Isn't it the Mormons who espouse the practice of polygamy (but to the gratification of their menfolk, only)?

Sometimes we let our parents down, sometimes our parents let us down.

You will, no doubt, ocassionally let your children down and they will reciprocate.

It's all a question of from what perspective someone is coming from.

You might wish to point out that friendship is one of the greatest of gifts (dunno about you, but we are far closer friends to those within our, albeit small, lifestyle community than within our Vanilla circle - maybe it's a trust thing).

If you were not "swingers", she would probably not think twice that your sexual practises might have an adverse affect on her grandchildren. If you can somehow reassure her that this is not an issue, then she may well come to terms with it in time as she did with your sexuality at age 17 once the initial shock wore off.

Unfortunately there can be no guarantee, though as I well recall the reaction of my own mother, she too was a Mormon, when I first dated a "Lamenite" (black-skinned) girl.

She just couldn't reconcile herself to her faith's teachings (as follows):

"The God-fearing Nephites were "pure" (the word was only officially changed from "white" in 1981) and "delightsome." The idol-worshiping Lamanites received the "curse of blackness," turning their skin dark.

According to the Book of Mormon, by 385 AD the dark-skinned Lamanites had wiped out other Hebrews. The Mormon church called the victors "the principal ancestors of the American Indians." If the Lamanites returned to the church, their skin could once again become white".

Well, bully for that. Perhaps someone should mention this "fact" to Michael Jackson.

Sometimes we have to treat our parents in the same way that we treat our kids in that, whilst not agreeing with them or their actions, neither should we shut them out, but must always leave the door ajar for their hoped prodigal return.

Good luck.