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Originally Posted by iapr I do not mean to be insensitive to your situation as all men are vulnerable to that happening but if you are interested in sex it makes sense that you would prefer someone that is actually capable of having sex. |
I agree.
Every guy struggles once in a while. It is just the nature of the beast. I've been overwhelmed by a situation, intimidated by a woman or just plain worn out. But, typically, I am functional.
Because of this, Mrs Spoo is looking for playmates who can perform as well. She also has had experiences where guys struggle. Most of the time, it is just nerves, alcohol or something else. She knows it happens, but if there were some reason why a guy couldn't get past that, we'd move on.
While we look for friends and the full experience of getting to know people, one of the draws of swinging is sex. We enjoy that aspect and make no apologies for it. We've made friends in the lifestyle that haven't become playmates - and we've had playmates who never became friends. So we wouldn't limit friendship to whether or not we are sexual with a person - but we aren't going to play with a person who can't perform; we aren't going to play half way.
There is help for ED. And it has been discussed here quite a bit. From our perspective, we'd say if you want to swing, and you have ED, see your doc and join the fun.
Spoomonkey