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Old 08-07-2007, 12:55 PM   #64 (permalink)
Tybee Swing
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Default Re: Activities with cheating men. Thoughts?

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Originally Posted by n2ez
The woman kept telling us, “It’s not MY sin!”; “I’M not lying!”; “That’s the GUY’s problem!”… And the husband kinda laughed at it.

What do you think?

.... It’s going off with married, cheating men that kinda make my partner and I look at each other and go “gulp.”

I am so curious to hear your opinions!
We (my husband and I) don't touch cheaters with a 10-foot pole. Like you, we believe that lying and deceiving has NO place in the lifestyle. Cheating husbands aren't swingers, they're just lying swine. The more that swingers associate with them as swingers, the less tolerance or understanding we'll get from the vanilla world. If we preach "honesty, trust, openness is what we're all about", we ought to demonstrate that, including taking responsibility. Otherwise, we're no better than the cheaters are. If you lay down with pigs, you get dirty.

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Originally Posted by n2ez
How about activities with cheating Women???
Same. We've actually had that opportunity and turned it down. I know we're not the only ones, because we're not the first to turn her down because her spouse didn't know what she was up to. We live near a major military installation where a lot of the husbands are away in the war. Maybe couples felt safer or "less like cheating", and that's why some of them are looking for people like us, rather than just running around with the single men like a classic cheater.
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